Topic: Grey and white..strings!!
jazzinc's photo
Thu 04/19/18 07:32 AM
When did you notice your first "grey or white" strings...in your hair? What age? Some people say it's genetic;others not.

What did you think at that discovery moment..in front of the mirror?

What do you think about it in the present? do you accept it? or you resist and you look for,,,colors at the pharmacy?

Larsi666 😽's photo
Thu 04/19/18 08:46 AM
It is genetic, I think. On my Dad's side, they get grey hair with an early age. On my Mom's side they don't seem to get grey hair at all.

I am going by my Mom's side, so I will always look younger than I am bigsmile

TxsGal3333's photo
Thu 04/19/18 08:57 AM
Humm had a big grey spot on the right side of my head in the front come in when I was 16~~~

Should have bought stock in Hair Dye~~~ did not start coloring my hair till I was in my 30's till then it was kewl looking..

But yea I color my hair and will continue.....

My mom was salt & pepper by the time she was 33, my dad not till he hit his 60's....

It has been proven that it is Genetic~~ But was told mine greyed so early due to extreme high fever when I was around 4 years old...... So who knows why some turn grey early while others do not...

Tom4Uhere's photo
Thu 04/19/18 08:58 AM
When did you notice your first "grey or white" strings...in your hair? What age? Some people say it's genetic;others not.
When I was 26.

What did you think at that discovery moment..in front of the mirror?
Hmm, a grey hair, whodathunkit?
Asked the Doctor, he gave me a B-12 vitamin.
a vitamin B-12 deficiency or problems with your pituitary or thyroid gland can cause premature graying that's reversible if the problem is corrected

Some research has suggested a connection between premature graying and lower bone density later in life


What do you think about it in the present? do you accept it? or you resist and you look for,,,colors at the pharmacy?
I accept that I am aging and that aging affects my appearance.
Aging is a much better condition than decaying.
My hair color has not changed too drastically but I do sport salt & pepper.
I bought some facial color but never actually used it.
I realized I would be fighting a losing battle.
My vanity is not severe or controlling.
I try to just be natural.

Likewise, I am understanding of the natural aging effects on women. Women's vanity levels are naturally higher than men's. I have the ability to see inner beauty and, for me, vanity measures are not needed.
If a personality requires vanity for contentment, I understand that.

soufiehere's photo
Thu 04/19/18 08:58 AM

I awoke on my 33rd birthday to find 2 streaks of white
in my blond hair..right at the forehead. It always
looked like I had my hair streaked at the beauty parlor :-)
I was horrified, I kept checking it all day long.

I was born with a full head of black hair, same as my Mother.
Then it all fell out before 6 months..when it grew back it
was pure blond, same as my Dad.

Now I have grown it out and it has turned gray, with the
same white streaks..rather interesting.

But it does tag your age :-(

Toodygirl5's photo
Thu 04/19/18 11:31 AM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Thu 04/19/18 11:32 AM
I have very little grey, so It doesn't bother me because I got it late in life.

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Thu 04/19/18 11:39 AM
iwas in my early 40s when the salt start mixing with the pepper in my beard. it's no biggie now and wasn't then either

Stu's photo
Thu 04/19/18 11:50 AM
Just in the past couple years, there's a few.

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Sun 04/29/18 11:58 PM
I'm still at the point where I can shave it off.

no photo
Mon 04/30/18 12:47 AM
I don't have any:tongue:

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Mon 04/30/18 01:11 AM
Women's vanity levels are naturally higher than men's.


Another absolute statement. Women's vanity levels are naturally higher, as in we are born with being vain? Women pride themselves on their physical appearance because society still judges us on our looks and places high emphasis and value on a woman's beauty, i.e., the popularity of beauty pageants and female beauty products. Beautiful women statistically attract more successful men and successful partners because most men love the company of beautiful women and it is also a high status symbol for them.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Mon 04/30/18 01:34 AM
as in we are born with being vain?

I didn't say that, my text was a general statement and not researched.
Of course, not all women have naturally higher vanity than men.
However, more women That I Know, are more prone to using make up to enhance their appearance than the men That I Know.

There are dresser ensembles that include a 'vanity' mirror.
Many women I know carry a mirror in their purse, plus make up and some type of scent.
I am a man. I carry a wallet. I don't need a purse to carry my grooming devices. My comb fits neatly in my back pocket. I might have a nail clipper on my key chain. I do care about my appearance but maintenance requires very little effort.

Its true that women are portrayed as vain.
Its true that women are taught appearance tricks to make them more appealing to men.

I prefer a 'shower fresh' woman over a 'made up' one.
If I love a woman, I love the woman, not the make up, fashion or style.
I am aware of what happens to a person when they age.
I embrace the 'natural person'.

In a sense, I find the efforts of vanity completely unnecessary.
However, I do understand the need.
With me, not required.

I've seen a woman give birth four times.
I've seen a woman without makeup and primp.
I actually prefer the person more than the makeup.

Enhancements of any kind are additional but not required.

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Mon 04/30/18 01:37 AM
Awesome for you but most men do want beautiful women due to social conditioning, status symbol, etc. Society places great emphasis on women's beauty and both men and women get caught up in that mindset.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Mon 04/30/18 02:06 AM

Awesome for you but most men do want beautiful women due to social conditioning, status symbol, etc. Society places great emphasis on women's beauty and both men and women get caught up in that mindset.

Personally, I see that as being shallow.
I don't fall in love with the image, I fall in love with the person.
Beauty ages out but as the beauty fades, the personality gets better.
My preferences reside in accepting natural age changes.
At my age, and the age of my targeted matches, wisdom and personality are far more important than looks.

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Mon 04/30/18 02:16 AM
Personality is definitely important but coupled with physical attraction. Both need to be there. If one is missing, the relationship will fail.

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Mon 04/30/18 12:57 PM
You see the person first before you talk to them, even on here you see their pics before you decide to send a message, so physical attraction comes before personality attraction.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Mon 04/30/18 01:21 PM
Personally, I choose the inner beauty but there must be some kind of physical attraction in the first place.
When I look at a woman I am getting close to, I see her youth in her features.
I am not attracted to gorgeous pictures that are sporting all the makeup and hairstyle tricks.
I'm attracted to natural beauty, sometimes with a light amount of makeup but what really gets my heart pumping is shower fresh and natural. Messy hair and no makeup at all. The "wild" look.
These are my preferences, I don't expect others to side for or against me on this because it really doesn't matter. I'm the one living behind my eyes.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Mon 04/30/18 02:42 PM
The first occasional grey hair... somewhere in my 30s, cannot remember exactly when. Mid-30 I think, not sure. I wasn't bothered by it. I thought it was kinda funny tongue2
Now, 13 days away from being 52, I'm still not all that grey. (I got a friend same age who's 100% grey, so I'm not doing all that bad, haha).
I do have more grey hair, and not where women usually get this (temples) but the top of my head near the back and mid-section of the back of my head.
The exact places I cannot see myself, haha. I have to use a mirror -or take a photo- to find out if I need to dye my hair again.
Not grey throughout, mixture still with my own colour, but those areas are getting more of a "classic blonde" as my hairdresser calls it, haha.

Grey hair is not the No1 reason I dye my hair btw, I've done that for yonks, just cos I like a different colour. These days I like to go for darker brown than my own hair colour (light brown).

cajunman59's photo
Mon 04/30/18 06:30 PM
Had a few grey hairs in high school. Tried color in the 30 -40's then gave into nature.smile2 Dad had a full head of dark hair until the end, I've got his hair but mom's color, she greyed early.

Serchin4MyRedWine's photo
Mon 04/30/18 06:36 PM
I would say it is mostly genetic however certain drugs and medications can also affect the onset of grey hair. Also a great amount of stress over a long period of time has been shown to speed up the onset.

In my case it is hereditary, My dad was almost completely grey by the age of 45. Fortunately It took another ten years in my case and I can still find spots of dark brown/black hair if I look hard enough laugh laugh