I have a single brother who is 51... quite handsome and athletic . However I worry he will remain single again forever .., he told me he met a woman last week who had a body to die for but her face looked old .. she was 40... He said the date went well and they seemed to get along .. but he was just not attracted enough .. , I gave him a sisterly slap and told him to get real !!!!

Is it unrealistic to want the total package .,,

i understand preferences and not wanting to settle ., but being realistic also has its benefits .

Just walking on the beach .. and pondering what to do with him

stunning day in nz.. be back later ., cell reception out here is very hit and miss

from man point of veiw, we usually don't look at faces

Humm what should you do nothing just pick on him and give him hell but when it comes to dating unless you plan on setting him up with someone then.. I would say let him be it will happen in time..

Actually funny, guess I'm kind of like your brother there if I wake up in the morning I want someone looking back at me that I'm attracted too.. lol


We all have to be at least attracted the one we are with...

I think most men want the total package, however, women maynot care if a man is a total package and will except him anyway for s date or spouse.

Well Blondey you can hand him 2 paper bags so he can put a bag on his head in case hers falls off ! One day he will figure out that looks only go so far ...

Blondey my sweet NZ flower, no it is not unrealistic for him to want the total package. Why should he settle for only half of the package he wants? Sure, you only want the best for him but he is the only person that knows exactly what he wants. You need to let him make up his own mind. Give him advice, give him your opinion and let him know what you think of his choices but in the end let him have the final say.

P.S. I have a beach here also. I bought some sand from Walmart and spread it on my front lawn.

If it's just one woman younger than he it isn't a problem. If he isn't attracted to any women in their 40's, he will remain alone. At his age, his sex drive is getting lower and less a woman can do for him.

You cant force attraction, its either there or its not , Its not unrealistic to want to the total package when he probably has the total package,why settle and be left wondering why he settled.

I realize the NZ is a small place but who knows someone might vacation there and he happens to run into her somewhere.

This is how my sister met her hubby, he is from vancouver canada and he was on a business trip here when he met my sis at a coffee shop, a chance meeting.

5 years later, married and expecting their first child and she moved to Vancouver

Tell him not to give up.

Kind of a human thing, we're all looking for the best we can get. It's evolution despite how evolved ppl think they are LOL I've been told by women friends that they don't like to date men too good looking because of the competition of other women.

I worked with a guy who was a Pierce Brosnan double. We were lunch buddies He was nearly 50 (I was a little older, not that it matters) . We took motorcycle lessons together, he to remember and I to learn how to ride a scooter.

He brought her to a special happy hour - she was average looking, thin/small ~~~ they both loved riding motorcycles and met that way. She was very interesting and very different from him. They did get married. It was good to see someone not decide to never marry.

He said all the model looking types were too shallow for him, not intellectual enough. We talked a lot at lunch about being single. It was good to hear a man's outlook.

Im single too

Is nightly mounting .75 of the month/year out of the question?..
or perhaps even more with someone of my contemporary age?
Don't even dignify. I'm afraid of the answer either way.

msking me laugh dodo .. my favourite jacket looks so similar to miss minions

aww mankum I think you are right .. but at some point men do look at faces .. even if it is just when they open their eyes in the morning

i think what surprised me the most was his comment about how old her face looked ., when in fact I thought she looked appropriate for her age . There is such a pressure today to hold onto youthful looks .. I do wonder what would happen especially for women if there was no makeup .. no Botox .. no plastic surgery ., just natural ageing ., would we have a different expectation ?

I don't think it is bad to want the total package toody .. it is our perception of ageing that seems unnatural . Our face and bodies age yet our brain seems to still value youthful beauty .. perhaps it is a genetic defect

making me laugh nice1... I still remember when the first paper bag jokes appeared as a solution for acne . I am sure he knows that ., Iikely he was just winding me up

Two options to counter an unattractive face....

1. Light switch.

2. Paper bag.