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for me chasing might be too strong a word, but i am definitely ok with her dumbing her interest in me down to blatant neanderthal. i actually had one once ask me when i was gonna ask her out.  because subtle for most guys is as subtle as a brick to you gurls. Yes Crystal explained "subtle" in the mind of a woman vs a man very well I think I like the coy dropping of the handkerchief the best. Throwing it at him or smacking him upside the head with a brick is a little too aggressive for me. Now the lasso... that could be fun, but later on  Thanks for sharing Eric 
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just be warned you might hafta drop it 3 or four times before he sees a pattern
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 You're probably right
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seee less subtle
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You men are confusing
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only cuz you make us more complicated than we really are
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You men are confusing  Wait, men are confusing? 
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You men are confusing Wait, men are confusing? 
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Either should be comfortable and willing to make the first indication of interest but it is imperative that the one being given that interest must reciprocate in some way if it is ever to move even to a conversation. Playing that "hard to get" card in society today will get you absolutely nothing.
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Either should be comfortable and willing to make the first indication of interest but it is imperative that the one being given that interest must reciprocate in some way if it is ever to move even to a conversation. Playing that "hard to get" card in society today will get you absolutely nothing. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Sounds like you would be okay if a woman pursued you first 
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for me chasing might be too strong a word, but i am definitely ok with her dumbing her interest in me down to blatant neanderthal. i actually had one once ask me when i was gonna ask her out. because subtle for most guys is as subtle as a brick to you gurls. I think you being a Capri has much to do with that :) Capris tend to be quite 'shock' proof, within reason of course. I think that's maybe one of the reasons a Capri & Taurus go well together as a Taurus can be subtle as a brick at times, hihi. But I think in general a Capri can handle that easy-peasy, sooner amused than perturbed. |
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Edited by
EirikViking
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Wed 11/28/18 07:49 AM
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Chasing after you? Women chasing men came up in another thread, the opinion was that when women chase men they run the other way. Innately, men are the hunters and women are the nurturers. I've heard some men say they adhere to this and others say it's 2018, time for women to do the chasing. So what are your true thoughts on this. If a woman were to pursue you, how would you really feel about that? Would you run the other way or would you feel flattered and take a risk going against what feels natural? It depends what we are talking about. One nights are not my thing. But a woman taking initiative in romance is no wrong, I guess. But it can be a bit cringe if it's not mutual. A woman you have no interest in who misunderstand friendship for love can create difficulties between us. Often it doesn't end well... |
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But a woman taking initiative in romance is no wrong, I guess. But it can be a bit cringe if it's not mutual. A woman you have no interest in who misunderstand friendship for love can create difficulties between us. Often it doesn't end well... That works for guys too...but then they yammer on about how they are "*SUCH* a nice/ good guy...why can't she just see that??" She ain't interested, bro....give it up. |
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But a woman taking initiative in romance is no wrong, I guess. But it can be a bit cringe if it's not mutual. A woman you have no interest in who misunderstand friendship for love can create difficulties between us. Often it doesn't end well... That works for guys too...but then they yammer on about how they are "*SUCH* a nice/ good guy...why can't she just see that??" She ain't interested, bro....give it up. Yep, some men cannot take 'no' for an answer and as per usual the good suffer cos of the bad: I used to always send a polite message of not interested, but I stopped cos too many a-holes start nagging OR ignore it and take your message to mean "She's interested in me!" The number of times I said I wasn't interested and he then replied "Hi, nice to hear from you! Tell me more about yourself, I like this and bladibla..." Errr... I just told you I wasn't interested?! A while back I politely told a man I was looking for someone taller. My goodness... he got all upset and told me my feelings were nonsense (WOW!!!) and got all irate. Now I just say "Not interested" instead of "Looking for taller" then you get "Why not?" (Why not interested?") FFS! Then you don't reply anymore as that just leads to chit anyway, but then you got one that message again with "Well?" or "Would be nice to get a reply." Maybe there's women who do the same thing, I don't know, but it is a real pain. |
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Oh I feel your pain Crystal. I've had the same thing happen to me. I no longer reply to messages for that exact reason! When I turned a guy down into meeting, he became abusive and very insulting and I was very polite too. It's just not worth getting into a meaningless conversation just to say you're not interested. You're right though, most guys can't take no for an answer. A shame innit. I remember when I first got on dating sites, and so many men said that women never reply, I was adamant to not add to that and to thus always send a reply. I have gotten nice reactions for doing that, but the amount of insults and abuse I got became too much, so I gave up. |
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Edited by
I_love_bluegrass
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Wed 11/28/18 09:40 AM
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Oh I feel your pain Crystal. I've had the same thing happen to me. I no longer reply to messages for that exact reason! When I turned a guy down into meeting, he became abusive and very insulting and I was very polite too. It's just not worth getting into a meaningless conversation just to say you're not interested. You're right though, most guys can't take no for an answer. A shame innit. I remember when I first got on dating sites, and so many men said that women never reply, I was adamant to not add to that and to thus always send a reply. I have gotten nice reactions for doing that, but the amount of insults and abuse I got became too much, so I gave up. Delightful Illusion... And those SAME guys are the very ones who go about telling all & sundry what a good/ nice guy they are..and why can't these picky bit***s just ~see that~.. Honey..a good/ nice guy doesn't react to a "not interested" with profanity, insults, or threats... Check yourself, bro... And, SparklingCrystal.. I don't understand WHY someone would want to be with someone who isn't interested in them.. WHY try and tell the woman if she'd just change x, y, or z...or be less "picky"...the two of you would work... Wouldnn't your time be *better* spent actively looking for and messaaging womnen you ACTUALLY have something in common with...other that just "we're both single and on here"..? (one guy actually said that ^ to me when i asked what he thought we had in common..) |
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*IF* I were single and looking,
There are absolutely 0 local profiles I'd consider. And, I'm vehemently NO LDR. That, really limits the possibilities. But, i'm good with that. Me pursuing anyone? Not gonna happen. Someone wants to pursue me? Best damned well have my blessings to do so. |
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Edited by
I_love_bluegrass
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Wed 11/28/18 10:01 AM
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I agree wholeheartedly. Their profiles say they're laid back but after we turn them down they get offended and then invariably they get abusive contrary to what their profiles say! I just thank my lucky stars that my gut instinct is good Regarding "gut instinct".. Had a guy on another site message me..we chatted back & forth for a while.. He *seemed* semi-promising..so I decided to call him on the phone.. In the *first* 30 minutes of conversation he TOLD ME I needed to get a cell phone..I asked why..he said so he could keep in touch with me.. Why? Are you going to call numerous times a day to "check" on me? What exactly is the reason you want me to have a phone so you can "keep in touch with me"?? Dude..we *just* started talking... There were several other concerning things he mentioned (like, if we are chatting..why am I stillactive on that site daily...), but I won't go into details. So..I had bvasically decided to not pursue it further. He messages me after 2 days..I didn't read it.. 2 more days goes by... Then, out of the blue..another guy from that dinky little town messages me.. I thought that was really odd..I mean...I've *never* gotten a message from two guys from the same *city* (like Nashville, for instance)..which is FAR bigger than this place.. Something struck me as odd about this.. But, I played along... The guy started out OK, then got really ugly and insulting. I peaced out of the conversation....and blocked him from messaging me... This was Monday. Today, I saw where The second guy's profile has been removed.. On *that site*....there's a difference between *having* it removed, and *you* removing it.. *He* removed it.. Further confrming my spidey-sense about something being not quite right about it all... I am certian he was a friend or buddy that the *first* guy had set up to message me..to see if I would chat with someone else, while not chatting with him.. Original guy has re-messaged me as of Tuesday night...I haven't read it, and have no intentions of doing so. And guys on those sites think I am over-cautious/ paranoid/ have "walls".. Honey, you BET I do...you have no idea of the BS I have run across on here.. |
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Sometimes women get asked, why you on a dating site but you don't want to date. Well, that means we are not just interested in Every man that messages us.
A professional man told me once, he thought men who have to go Online for a date is loosers.  I didn't believe that totally but there are a Lot of them Online. |
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