I would love it if you COULD move me back in there with them. I just hope it works. I feel like a missing part of a jigsaw. And I feel weird having not talked to Stephen in a while.

I like how some women have black hair with blonde or blue ends. I like ombre styles. I like MOST hair colours. I could never pick just one. I love the silver/grey hair people are dying there's at the moment, but I wouldn't wear it myself.


Incase you end up not liking whichever colour you put on, make sure to buy another hair colour to put over it. If doing your hair blonde, better to use 'ColourB4', as the blonde will look more natural once you've stripped all previous colours from your hair. Don't use that 'Live XXL' rubbish. It'll fry your hair like crazy.

And as harsh as it might sound, never dole out too much sympathy for anyone. We all have our fair share of sad experiences, but some will try so hard to win you over, that they end up tricking you.

It isn't harder in my case. It's just that I like to wait a bit of a while before dating again. I have to have time to grieve for the last ex.

Well, I know a divorced man who is really dominant. Not always a good thing, though. He starts calling his ex wife horrid names, and the rest of us just roll our eyes in disgust at the whole thing. Other than that, he's okay to be around.

Some molesters tend to have a certain charm. Not all, but just keep your eye out. And if someone tries to force themselves onto you, don't just go along with it. Defend yourself, and then phone the police. It can leave serious damage.

Eventually your daughter is going to have to be introduced to him. My mum used to do this gradually with me, when she first met my step dad. Gradual might work better. :thumbs up:

You two have been chatting for months. I, personally, don't think that's long enough, before you move in with them. What if you end up finding there are awkward silences between you both once you get there? What if he ended up doing something horrible to you? Are you in the right mind frame to go ahead with this? What's the rush? I mean it, though. Make sure your hormones aren't running wild.

Me too. I spy vulnerability :(

Yeah I've been in a relationship with one. I just had to take him at face value, otherwise I could have let it destroy me. When he was nice, he was good to be around, then when he got narky, I went to my room, until he felt calm again. I didn't like how he wanted everything to go his way.

As long as you explain that you mean 2kidsmom. Otherwise it just sounds so wrong.

Do you want to go to a cold country or a warm country? What kind of scenery would you prefer? Etc. I feel like a travel agent. Welcome :)

Then tell her that. But I really don't advise being with one woman, while having feelings for a DIFFERENT woman. It seems you're juggling them around in your mind.

If I had feelings for an ex, I wouldn't go into a new relationship, until those feelings had dissapeared. It wouldn't feel right dragging another person into it.

I've got no lover, but if I DID ever have another one, I'd like:


A charmer,
a free thinker,
A smoker,
Someone who likes to hug,
a man who knows his worth,
someone with self-respect and self-acceptance,
someone who likes to laugh,
good hygiene,
someone who likes to make love a lot,
a smiler.


Things that turn me off in a man:
Bad hygiene [ a good excuse to get the Febreze out]…
a drug taker,
putting his career before the relationship,
not considerate,
not sexual at all,
someone who brags,
a miserable face,
a narcissist,
in a constant war with his ex gf/ex wife,
a cold temperament.

Unfortunately, people with dementia will always live in the past. They can't help it. They can't be expected to keep up with us. It's fun thinking back to the nostalgic years. I just didn't see how rotten and manipulating the world would become. I have no motivation for modern life. It just disgusts me.

I've never quite understood what others see in those extravagant meals. That's just me. I like nothing more than a true hearty meal. Not some tiny square cube, made of jelly.

I agree with TexasGirl. I'd rather have a joker, than a lifestyle devoted to chores. I wouldn't want to be shackled down with orders all day long. With me, it always has to be a light-hearted atmosphere. I don't like a strict lifestyle.

I was friends with a man in his late fifties
. He was a character. He would try to charm lots of women, whether he was in a relationship or single. He would dress up just to go to the pub, in a shirt and tie. I wish he was still alive.