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Best Wishes to all the Exceptional Mom's and Dad's and Kiddo's. Hope you all are having a great summer. Got you on my prayer list..Joy

Well I don't see how being considerate, cute, a little dareing, responsible with money, employed, smart would turn a guy off; and obviously it didn't or he would not have asked you out so Chill girlfriend. Unless you just totally blew him off get on the stick call, text, or email him an invite. Keep your little crisis in confidence to yourself until your married 25 years. If you must have an excuse tell him you had a bad stomache that particular time but your feeling good so naturally you thought of him.

Sure Darlin. I just been waiting for a guy who doesn't give a darn if I don't wear heels so my butt looks cute, or pay a hundred bucks to get my hair colored, contacts so you can look directly into my big beautiful eyes, or one of those God aweful uncomfortable push up bras for my ample blessings. I will have to wait until you complete a Manners 101 course though.

I might have something to do with the way you are asking these young women who don't know you all that well for that first date.

If all you have done is talk or text it is not likely that a vague invitation to go eat a meal feels really safe. Most women do not want to include alcohol in a first date with a stranger even if food is involved.

I don't know how other younger women feel but setting across the table in a yet un-named eating establish that I might or might not like is not my first choice for a date. How are you going to talk with food in your mouth? FOr women it always puts them in a difficult position to know what to order without overwhelming the gentleman's budget. Getting stuck with the bill; sadley is not rare nowdays.

The solution I would suggest is at least being a little more specific when inviteing a lady for a date. Place, time, and date are at least a minimum. It might be less than spontaneous but it shows genuine interest to ask for a date at least three days in advance and then call the day before to confirm.

If she is a single parent at least five days to find a sitter is definitely going to help your odds at an acceptance.

If you get a "stall" when you offer a specific invitation you have two choices; say "Sorry that is not going to work out" or "Sorry if you would like another day I can call you in a week or you can call me when you have a day free and we can see if we can do it later." This way you are not grilling her about her calendar but you have at shot at finding a compatiable date.

Since you are really discovering the world from a completely different perspective than you have ever had before (one where you get to make the choices) you have a lot of potential to be any thing you want to be.

If there are things about yourself that you don't like it might sound simplistic but change the ones you can, accept the ones you can't, and just give yourself some time to accept that you might not ever know the difference. Life will change you but you can guide it along if you invest in yourself.

Since most women want someone who has some stability and confidence you might want to set some goals that will bring that into your life.

Performing is a big and very competative industry that tends to be very volital so you can make a lot of money and spend it equally fast. Be sure you invest in things that will not loose value; education, a home, tools, and loyal friends that you didn't have to buy.

Having friends and lovers is easy if you try to be the best one in the deal and expect them to have the same attitude.

A good woman does not expect a perfect man only a man who cooses to make honorable choices.

Well I always heard they were the kisses of Angels so thought that had to mean they were good luck.

Lex Honey if you know 4,972,882 things all guys do maybe you should list them for those of us who don't know men all that well. Then we will know what to expect in the dateing world. YOur help is so appreciated.

In this arrangement it sounds like your girl and you are really more only kind of room mates and last ditch sex partners than in a relationship.

Sooner or later one of you is going to find something you really want enough to step out of the only what feels good at the moment and one of you is going to end up ditched.

Maybe it will be and accidental pregnancy or contracting an STD or even something as simple as one or the other hitting a dry streak on the out side playmates while the other doesn't want to be bothered.

I am glad you are not personal friend of mine because I have seen how what wasn't a big deal gets to be giganticly so.

The incedential variables you seem to be ignoreing don't always play by the "rules" that make you happy.

Having just lost a close family member recently I have had a couple people express interest and I just don't have the emotional energy to really respond. Don't know about your lady friend but if she is in mourning it might not seem respectful to her family to be social.

I have had day care kids, foster kids, children by birth and adopted children and I can tell you that bonding feeling is basiclly the same. With and adopted child you see them it just hits you like when you are pregnant and you have that "quickening" feeling. Any child you have you have to bond with. If mother and child are both strong and healthy it is a lot easier to bond than if one or both are not.

Once a child goes through severe enough abandonment they turn within and pretty much are never able to bond. Those kids can get all the love in the world and it is not going to change their ability to bond. Not with a parent and often not with their children. Very sad.

If a guy tried to float that balogne with me I would say "Sure Darlin you can have your break" and that would be the end of him.

I can see someone being in pain or overworked and saying "Honey I am having a tough time keeping up but if I am the lowest priority in his life for long I would be gone then too.

You live your life waiting for your "turn" I can pretty much tell you it never comes.

I stood for 10 and a 1/2 hours in freezing rain to get my step-daughter a Cabbage Patch Doll when they were all the rage. I am sure if someone tried to fight me for that I would have had to hurt them.

I agree with professional hearing testing. Some sounds are much easier to hear or comprehend in the white sound that muffled hearing allows.

Also putting her to bed 30 minutes earlier since at that developemental stage they are usually having a growth spurt and just tire easier so there reactions and allertness declines.

Since I do not believe toddlers calculate their behavior to purposefully be difficult it is more likely that she is just able to concentrate and screen you out as she is mesmerized by what she is doing. Make eye contact and you can redirect her focus to listen.

I was always one for praise and positive re-enforcement when they do respond at the first direction than punishment when they don't on the second or third direction. But then mine also knew from before two I only asked "nice" once. If I had to get up to make them do what I said there would be a consequence.

Sometimes modeling behavior is helpful. If your child only gets a response the third time they ask that is what you will get.

Probably because the higher intellectual developement of your brain between 18 and 21 is so profoundly affected by drinking that you really don't want to do it.

Also the likely hood that you do not have the impulse control to not attack others and not fight back when "helping professionals" try to subdue you on alcohol.

Relax. Know it drives ya crazy wondering. Might be he stayed up late talking to you one night then had to get chores done today for the work week and get in the sack early tonight. My feeling is you will get an email Tuesday.

Carrying a weapon is a choice. If you are able to use it for your protection and you are convinced your odds are better surviving having it then do what you have the right to do.

My experience, and statistically, it is more often the case you will be disarmed and beaten or killed for having it. It is also much more likely that you will harm another innocent; often a spouse or your own children, or yourself.

In All the years that I was around professionals that were suppose to be able to protect me (from the people I was suppose to be afraid of) I was more often at risk from them. I have been threatened more often by people with permits than not. Funny thing about having one they learn real fast that it is very unlikely that their version of their behavior will not be protected by the blue line wheather they were right or wrong. Not saying any of those here are into that but it does happen.

JMHO When people are carrying a weapon they have a sense of saftey and power and they make stupid mistakes. My guess would be why so many peace officers and guards get killed.

After my experience with the system I wasn't about to trust anyone and unfortuneately depending on their birthfather was never and option. Thankfully I never really had any serious problems with credible outsiders saying I was a bad parent; not even their birthfather or the hords of Professionals involved with my special needs child.

But having a family, young with minimal education, and with no back up does not give you a lot of options. I know at times it was tough on my kids. Missing out on the whole grandma grandpa thing. My Dad did not come back on line until my kids were well away from home.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm........

Maybe going on a free public dating site to announce your intentions will have already gotten back to her and she will see your at least honest in your monicer.

Why is it so impossible to just stop talking to her? You are not married or living together are you? You are not depending on her to support you are you? I mean if she is paying your rent she kind of has a right to that being around 24/7 thing. It kind of makes sense if you are selective of what and when you tell her the facts maybe you are doing the same here. All break ups have more than one version.

No law says you can't ignore her calls or visits? You don't answer the door a couple times she will get the message. Of course that kind of (hopefully) rules out anymore of that "not so innocent stuff".

Since you convienently leave out if your friends are like wise towards her in the "mean" department or if you are not so innocent with other females maybe she has a justifyable attitude.

Calling someone Psycho or suggesting calling yourself Gay sounds attention seeking and discrimanatory on several levels. But hey nothing like burning your bridges all around.

Kinda makes it clear what the future holds for your next ex-girlfriend. With this as your self introduction I don't see that being a real threat to the Savy crowd here.

Hope I helped you out with "your" problem. We just love it when people make it easy to get to know them.

Pacific, thank you for such a long rating! What would a "more mature" pic look like?

Had to think about this one.

Many of your shots are drop down shots. Very sultry, sweet, and even campy which demonstrates your range is why I am thinking the only gap is where you are dead on your age, classic, even "posed" with your presentation.

Maybe something more straight on or slightly profile; includeing shoulders and upper torso or even in a sophisticated setting full length shot standing or only slightly sitting on a stool or desk.

Maybe in a tailored suit. At least a silk blouse in a color (not black, red, or white) and knee length skirt, maybe even a suit, and conservative heels. Look for a style that matches your crisp geometric hairstyle. The photo of you with the shades has a definite suggestion of great sense of style and subtle grace.

I know your eye make up is kind of your signature look but one photo with a softer liner and some subtle lip color will balance your very symetrical features and give you a professional presence to match your personality when needed. I see great career success in your future and I would like something that suggests that.

Keep in mind I mean a young professional, a maturity level that suggest your current age not some frumpy corporate grandma mature. (Wink) A couple of your shots do that in a casual way but I think you can pull off something more formal.

IMHO Skip most, if not all, Mall Chain photographers unless you want to spend a lot of money for cliche work. A great way to get some great photo's is offer to be a student model at a community college. Do not pay anything above the cost of film negatives or a flash drive for a student. Do get a written release to use the photos as you choose.

Pleeeeeze keep in mind my original comment that this is only a minor improvement for a very good profile.

Makes me wonder where OP has been observing this behavior?