The "cutting up" is what keeps things from getting boring.

When you are lonely it is easy to second guess your previous decisions.

My guess is there was something instinctively that made you pass then and it would have probably been another disaster.

Just because she was hot for you does not mean you would have liked the attention after a while. Passion does not necessarily mean lasting or faithful love sometimes it is just transference for some neurotic need.

Hang in there you will met someone and probably when you least expect it.

Whenever someone asks me what is clearly an inapproriate question I try to kill them with kindness and say "Oh Honey why would you be interested in knowing that?"

Usually by being put on the spot they get what they really wanted anyway which is attention for them.

If they are doing it just to be catty then being selectively deaf makes them look nosey because they usually repeat themselves and you can continue to ignore them again.

Just because someone asks a question you don't have to answer it.

If people are just dating and no promise of monogomy has been agreed upon I don't see getting all worked up about it.

If it is a mutuall agreed upon monogomous relationship then I would dump them in a New York minute.

This is the biggest reason I know for not rushing into intimacy.

It does seem fairly clear to me that a person who has long standing interest in a site is not likely to give up that attention.

When you feel like you are giving more than you ar e getting and it is is not enough.

Have a child when;
(1) You have the ability to know what you really want in life.
(2) You have your own skills to sustain your own living expenses and the child's. THe state, your parents, and the other parent can not be depended on. It may take two to create a child but more often than not it is one who raises them.
(3) You have a basic knowledge of child developement and like children, all ages, in general not just babies.
(4) You can cope with constant change in your life; frequently poverty.
(5) You can accept you are no longer going to be number one or maybe even number two ever again.
(6) You can work with people in your community; weather you like them or not; regards your child.
(7) You can love your child even if they do not love you back.
(8) You realize that a child might come through you but does not belong to you. That you keep them at the discreation of the state.
(9) That even when you do and excellent job you work yourself out of a job.
(10) That even when you do your best you may fail or your child can fail; maybe even perish.

IMHO most people do not even begin to understand these concept or have these abilities until they are in their middle twenties or older. Not everyone is meant to be a parent just because they can.

When it is Hot food doesn't do it for me. Give me a hot man in a cool shower and crisp cotton sheets and the weather outdoors will not matter.

Probably chucking the fairy tale idea and picking people with a little less defined "Type" might help. Usually more moderate people make for a less dramatic life; includeing the disappointments. Real realationships take time.

I don't think God sets us up to get our hearts broken. Quite the contrary since he actually gives us a lot of criteria of how to avoid people who do just that if we pay attention. We have choices and it isn't God's fault when we choose badly. Actually he is more forgiving of us than we are of ourselves. And comforting if we let it happen.

I swear sometimes I feel like I have a Cross stich heart it has been sewn up so much.

I think of the "Fool me once shame on you; fool me twice shame on me." applys here. I am not into self punishment so yes I might be civial to someone who "broke my heart" but not friends.

I guess it is needed but sometimes the spaces tend to suggest more vulgar terms than were used.

Moderators have to have the patience of Jobe.

IMHO seems like some how the measure of love should be how little you need to be forgiven for.

I sometimes wonder if my odds are even that good. I just feel like there are some deal breakers that I didn't think would be that unusual must be. I have a hard time believeing that at least a few people that have not;
(1) Been and addict to illegal substances or booze or tobacco
(2) Been arrested
(3) Lost their job or never had one
(4) Abandoned their family
(5) Found it imoral to serve their country
(6) Become homeless or are
(7) Found it acceptable to wait until at least be divorced before looking for a new partner
(8) Are not actively mentally ill or catagious
(9) Decided that dateing is to Evangilize their religion OR
(10) Find it necessary to punish me for treatment of a partner that I have never engaged in.
I am not saying that is and inclusive list but is even that unrealistic?

I am sorry for your experience but why would you want to be in a place like that? Doesn't even sound fun to me. Closeing down a bar is never a good idea. I would definitely be worried that I had been expossed to an **** STD and follow up with medical attention. Probably too late to file assault charges but I would check into a cival suit against the bar if you have any injuries.

As far as the drunken neighbor you do not have to put up with that garbage either. You can have him arrested for a variety of charges and if nothing else tresspassing and violation of a court restraining order if you will file one. I wouldn't recommend making yourself vunerable to these creeps. Even and elderly man can assault you and seriously hurt you. At least report him to Adult Protective Services as a threat to self. It is possible he could be court ordered into supervision. Alcoholism tends to advance Alzheimers and it is a myth that they are "harmless drunks."

Some of us figure that if someone needs to have a picture that is up to the minute to draw a conclusion weather they like my general appearance they are too neurotic to go out with anyway. My pictures are a mixture of dates but represent significant interests in my life over a considerable period. If only the different hairstyles don't clue a guy in he needs his eyes checked. Unfortuneately some guys will see only what they want to see and cry like a calf in a rainstorm when faced with reality.

This errand run is exactly why I have and always will stress to people not to be a taxi service for anyone.

You would be amazed the number of jokers that are carrying drugs or a gun and can put you in the middle of a jackpot by being in your vehical or that matter living in your house.

I talk to a Grandfather that is beside himself because his Grandbaby's Daddy is so high all the time he dropped the baby off his lap playing a computer game. When I ask why they didn't just kick him out he said they had been threatend that dope was hidden so many places that they would never find it all and he would turn them in and get their homes taken away from them for trafficing or at least the baby taken by CPS. The grandmother quit her job to babysit but he dominated her to the point the daughter quit her job recently too. Drugs are a plague in this country every bit as much as other countries.

Seems like giving love if you never felt it would be pretty impossible so while both are a must for a happy world I can't say one is more important. For myself now I would opt for giving but then I got mine at one point. Hope it isn't a one and only but won't kill me if it is.

What baffles me is how come they can't come up with some effective means of birth control that men can use to keep from getting a woman pregnant when they don't want to without the use of condoms.

Not that I am against condoms but it doesn't take a genius to believe that they are not effective birth control or HIV/Aids preventative. Condoms are not easy or convient to use.

Haveing a better solution for that problem seems a better use of the money. I am sure there are people who will try to say that is the purpose of this study but I don't buy it.