With a few more pictures this is a very good profile. Get a good feel for your personality and it encourages communication.

Many things contribute to homelessness and hunger.

The shear cost of houseing is a big part of the problem. As long as we as a nation refuse to build basic affordable accessible houseing people will not have a place to live. The not in my neighborhood attitude is part of the problem but so is the fact that people who own homes frequently loose them to preditory lending practices. There are plenty of homes setting empty but rather than having homesteading programs where first time homeowners can rehab existing houseing they set empty as a blight to the neighborhood while we bailout the banks that wrote unaffordable morgages.

The ineffectual public education system that allows for as much as 80% of some school districts not to graduate their students creates and ongoing underclass. These students will never earn a living wage. And their children will be malnurished guaranteeing even futher developemental disabilities.

That we dis-allow a disabled person to collect social security for a year or longer until they are totally and permenently disabled before we even offer to rehabilitate them or start survival benifits. That guarantees they will be bankrupted and or homeless since very few people have enough resources to sustain themselves for a year without employment income.

That we offer little or no stable houseing for wards of the state, bounceing them from foster home to foster home and discharge them well before they have the education or maturity to survive in the world pretty much guarantees they will fall into the penal system sooner or later.

Another is that our country does not offer a comprehensive mass transit system so families can get to work and to support their families rather than car payments, exhorbident insurance, and repair costs.

Your welcome "T". Will keep you in my prayers. Don't know if that means anything to you but it does to me so hope it gives you peace.

Sounds like you had someone who enjoyed the fantasy of love more than actually loving someone. Maybe it was just too big a step to come out in real life. Sorry it happen to you. Bet it hurts like he-l. Try to solace yourself that at least you were able to express love and when the right person comes along you will know you have the ability to love.

I think I would just chill for a few days and see if your love interest gets a grip on things. Such an about face is comman in people with manic depression. They are wildly romantic then with the same extream they abandon the relationship. Reversals can last a few days if they stay on or get back on their medication but you are getting a painful taste of a particularly cruel form of mental illness. You may decide that it really isn't worth the pain once the chock wears off.

I don't know if it will be a comfort or not but you are hardly the firat and I would guess are millions from the last of people that are hurt this way. My sympathies.

Seems like and innocent flirt to me. Certainly better than something more crude.

I don't know how others feel but I would want my very personal moments to be about me and my lover not a lot of other people. PDA's are fine as long as they are not showing off. I love happy surprises but I really don't need and audience to make a big effort for someone I love.

Sounds like you have been through a lot. Sorry life has to suck like that.

A lot of people don't want to believe that women can be abusive but they can be and are.

At least she is seeing a doctor during her pregnancy which is in the baby's best interest. Maybe you will get lucky and she will give you the baby. Stranger things happen.

Being a single father would be tough but a lot of men have done it well when they set their mind to it.

I think she is just trying to prove the inability to concieve is not her fault. Sounds like there were a lot of issues about anatomy. Infertility is cruel to everyone involved. Hopefully the courts will help everyone out and get you all some counseling. A good infertility support group might be worth some time so that you can understand that "size" has nothing to do with conception and for most even pleasure but miss information, misunderstanding, and anger can hurt a lot and probably distroyed your mariage. A good urologist, or even your insurance nurse information line could give you resource referrrals. Even Planned Parenthood.

Wow ultimate failure; divorce is failure in some ways and actually success in others because it allows people to hopefully move forward so that isn't really ultimate. Being widowed is pretty ultimate. Not like your partner can move forward. I felt like I failed to protect my mate which was pretty impossible given the situation but felt like the ultimate failure at the time.

Well if you know you didn't make her pregnant you are safe but if you say it is someone elses baby and it works out to be yours that is slander.

Good for you to say you will man up for the child. If she is abusive you may well turn out to be a hero if you keep this innocent out of her control.

Hopefully you have medical records and written correspondence, even witnesses to prove she was abusive. The kid doesn't have much of a chance in life otherwise.

Seems like my ultimate goal is out of the question at this point so probably would have to say I had one but kind of gone now.

Your ex may or may not have done so purposely but her pregnancy will put the divorce on hold in most states.

It is because the state has to look out for the best interest of the state. That would mean not bastardizing the child which will be assumed to be yours in the eyes of the law and in regards to child support regardless of paternity. It allows the state to come after you if the mother decides to collect public assistance.

Hate to be the bearer of bad news but you may get out of paying alimoney when you demand and pay for paternity testing to prove in fact it is not yours but even if you do you will pay child support on this child regardless of who fathered it because it was concieved while you were legally married. You will also pay 50% of the fees for the attorney appointed to represent the infants legal rights.

You might luck out and find a judge who will award the minimum allowed for child support or allow you to sign your parental rights over to the state and then the state to allow the biological father to adopt the child if he and your soon to be ex is in fact more fit than yourself but that is not guaranteed.

You can also challenge your ex for custody of the child if you are legally found the father but it is not likely that a court will deem it the best interest of the child to award full custody of a child fathered by another man to you so you will probably get split custody and be subsidizeing your Ex (and her lover) through child support now that she can prove she is pregnant and a mother for the next 18 or so years. Longer if the child is born handicapped enough to be dependent past age of majority. Not unusual in premature births which are common in high stress situations.

You might resent paying for an attorney but you are going to need one. You would have been smart to cut your losses and gotten and amicable divorce before she got pregnant by someone else which still remains to be proved. If there is any chance her claims are legit I think I would wait to be slandering her on line. Courts don't look kindly on fathers that denie their children.

It is possible that she could take away your parental rights if you abandon the child for a year plus a day in most states but it won't stop her from filing for support up until that day and it is her choice; if the state agrees which many times they don't, not yours.

It is possible that you can challenge her being a fit mother and force the infant into your custody or a foster home but you will still pay child support to the state unil the infant is relinquished for adoption which she may not do just to spite you. Since this whole process requires an effort of rehabilitation and reunification by the state the child will not be available for adoption until some time well past infancy which is what most adoptive parents demand.

You might get really lucky if the Ex wants to relinquish the infant for adoption but that is going to require the biological father's permission also. And and adoptive family that wants the baby. Which may not be easy if there is any history of drugs, alcohol, or mental illness.

No offense I feel sorry for the baby. True it doesn't seem fair if it isn't your kid but until men demand the laws be changed they are not going to be.

Even though I want to like you the text doesn't engage me. The journey concept kind of starts off on an out of date jargon and repeats itself with several other remarks that sound a little too PC and unnatural for a straight guy. Sounds like you had a lady co-worker coach you and comes off a little phoney.

While you might have dumped the drama queen out of your life that you had one and reference it kind of sends up a red flag.

Wearing a cap inside looks kind of lame. Your actually a cute guy; balding or not so embrace it.

The close is important in selling a profile but telling a woman to write you a couple of lines kind of sounds like you are passing the buck to them to do your chore work.

Being a healthcare worker might have it's perks but working holidays, weekends, and nights would make dateing difficult so you don't want to play that card so solidly unless you balence it out with an outside of work life with pictures and text.

Or that you have good health unless you didn't at one time.

Sometimes it is the stuff people read between the lines that hurts you more. Seems unfair when you don't say anything revolting or stupid and probably work your tush off helping others. Good luck.

That I had forgiven him for cheating. I didn't think I was lieing but I realized later that I never really did.

I wonder sometimes how so many people can suffer from drug and alcohol lies and so few people who step forward and publicly say what a rip off it all is. How it trashes your life. How many years it takes to remotely recover. Even how it really isn't that much fun even to start. It would be so simple for the minimum drinking age to be raised to where the youth have the maturity to consume responsibly. Just changeing the laws that allow juviniles to consume in the home as minors would help.

Life was hard enough without choosing to make more strikes against myself.

I think there are a lot of people who should not be allowed on the internet but not sure how you cn keep them off if they are determined to be on. What knocks me out is the folks in jail having access. Especially considering what some of them have done.

Doubt many women will see your goal as flattering. Your lead photo looks angry and threatening. Each no answer is a strike against you.

Wondering why people break promises?

Well you have the power to boot them out. Step back and watch how people are. If they lie, cheat, and scam others it is a pretty safe bet they will do it to you. If you avoid them you will make life easier.