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Topic: YES OR NO TO Friends with Benefits?
jennyann68 Joined Mon 10/13/08 Posts: 7	Tue 10/14/08 01:22 PM
After the age of 50?

ljcc1964 Joined Fri 10/19/07 Posts: 8298	Tue 10/14/08 01:25 PM
No. Oh wait...I'm not over 50.

OneMoreTimeAround Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 3649	Tue 10/14/08 01:36 PM Edited by OneMoreTimeAround on Tue 10/14/08 01:39 PM
Honestly, I think it's simply up to the two people involved, nothing to do with age. As long as BOTH people realize it's nothing more-- then I don't see a problem. JMO

meanmarthajean Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 2266	Tue 10/14/08 01:45 PM
~ friends are a good thing ~ benefits are a good thing ~It comes down to ...if "one/self" is happy with these kinds of "arrangements.."different strokes for different folks", I believe was the phrase. ~Loneliness is a cloak you wear ~ A deep shade of blue is always there * Lyrics from..."The Sun Ain't Gonna Shine Anymore."

musichic Joined Wed 04/11/07 Posts: 8937	Tue 10/14/08 08:07 PM
What goes on between 2 consenting adults should stay between them. However, if their having benefits regularly, I think it's more than just a friendship.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Wed 10/15/08 06:16 AM
Many different degrees of "friendship". What happens behind closed doors is nobody else's business. At this age, there are so many other things that come to bear, on marrying again. Property, pensions, family, heck even the govt. proves that. A lady who remarries before 60. loses her ability to draw on her frst husbands S.S.; what if this marriage doesn't work out. She has lost a lot financial security, for later years. FWB, I think it works. (There I said it.)

flame1cutie Joined Thu 04/24/08 Posts: 7307	Wed 10/15/08 06:22 AM
Nothing wrong with FWB.

carold Joined Sun 03/23/08 Posts: 26747	Wed 10/15/08 05:24 PM
From what I'm reading I for one think lovers is different. And I think it is hard to just keep it FWB give me love making not just sex. Emotions get in the way. And if I don't have that zing I don't want to have sex. Touchy subject here for me right now lol

willy_cents Joined Sat 07/14/07 Posts: 4471	Wed 10/15/08 05:39 PM
Nothing wrong with FWB. can I be your "friend"?

flame1cutie Joined Thu 04/24/08 Posts: 7307	Wed 10/15/08 05:50 PM
Nothing wrong with FWB. can I be your "friend"?

musichic Joined Wed 04/11/07 Posts: 8937	Wed 10/15/08 06:51 PM
From what I'm reading I for one think lovers is different. And I think it is hard to just keep it FWB give me love making not just sex. Emotions get in the way. And if I don't have that zing I don't want to have sex. Touchy subject here for me right now lol I'm with you. Love making has that zing that plain old sex doesn't have. I certainly don't want to live with anyone or make any legal arrangements, but a companion with intimacy would be very nice. That's different to me that just FWB.

KoolAidWoman Joined Thu 09/20/07 Posts: 1079	Wed 10/15/08 06:51 PM
Yahoo! I crunching the money the IIIIIIIs have it. FWBennys is a good thing!.Kool

carold Joined Sun 03/23/08 Posts: 26747	Wed 10/15/08 07:45 PM
Yahoo! I crunching the money the IIIIIIIs have it. FWBennys is a good thing!.Kool Always good to see yah need that laugh

looking4u52 Joined Mon 10/01/07 Posts: 333	Wed 10/15/08 08:04 PM
I think generally folks who are single over 50 understand the realities of life and dating. And maybe the ideal relationship does not exist, but we still need the companionship and intimacy so arrangements are made between consenting adults. Probably in a lot of cases there is more there than just friendship, but to keep things simple we just call it FWB. Personally I think whatever two people come to agree on and if it works then have fun and enjoy each other's company. Life is too short try to make everything perfect.

bonniebelle Joined Wed 08/01/07 Posts: 1206	Wed 10/15/08 08:05 PM
FWB- depends on the friend & his attitude about it. a good place to hunt for one is the fish & game dept. at Walmart. maybe it's the time of year.

KoolAidWoman Joined Thu 09/20/07 Posts: 1079	Wed 10/15/08 08:17 PM
I think generally folks who are single over 50 understand the realities of life and dating. And maybe the ideal relationship does not exist, but we still need the companionship and intimacy so arrangements are made between consenting adults. Probably in a lot of cases there is more there than just friendship, but to keep things simple we just call it FWB. Personally I think whatever two people come to agree on and if it works then have fun and enjoy each other's company. Life is too short try to make everything perfect. Hay honey that sounds good to me you've Said it and there nothing wrong with that!Always Koolaid,seek and ye shall find? Y/Nay who knows. 10/15/08

looking4u52 Joined Mon 10/01/07 Posts: 333	Wed 10/15/08 08:22 PM
I am surprised by the results of this poll. I would of thought the guys would of said YES and the women NO. But, it appears most folks of either sex think that this is a workable situation.

KoolAidWoman Joined Thu 09/20/07 Posts: 1079	Wed 10/15/08 08:30 PM
How everyone ah doing? you asked and FWBennys is all good with Me! I don't need to give no! if,ands,or butts,i don't like beating around the bush types!seem like theres a lot of this ah here? for your question! for me its a man and a woman,I cannott speak for anyone else but if you doing it right-on baby! Of course because i will be getting Mine! good luck to you! Koolaid 10/15/08,

countrymike Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 132	Wed 10/15/08 11:37 PM
It is hard for me to believe what I just read...The majority of the answers forgot about God ,and morals and used age as a good reason.What have we all become when we do not respect ourselves for convenience or sex or monetary reasons as Sage suggests...What ever happened to the definition of whore whether it be male or female..or is that just acceptable because it is convenient to forget about God..At our age we should be believing in Him more and more not less... Benefits are for doing something right not wrong..(other than wall street) A committed relationship is the best sexual stimulant we could ever hope for and great sex is the reward. .Good benefits get better with security and love and peace of mind knowing that at our age we should be with the one we will be with till we pass and believing in that. In closing I will anger some but what I will say is the truth with no excuses needed.If you want too be a whore(male or female ) do so ,but recognize it for what it is...do not make excuses ..and then color it pretty by calling it friends with benefits.

Rapunzel Joined Tue 08/22/06 Posts: 16246	Thu 10/16/08 12:33 AM Edited by Rapunzel on Thu 10/16/08 12:46 AM
It is hard for me to believe what I just read...The majority of the answers forgot about God ,and morals and used age as a good reason.What have we all become when we do not respect ourselves for convenience or sex or monetary reasons as Sage suggests...What ever happened to the definition of whore whether it be male or female..or is that just acceptable because it is convenient to forget about God..At our age we should be believing in Him more and more not less... Benefits are for doing something right not wrong..(other than wall street) A committed relationship is the best sexual stimulant we could ever hope for and great sex is the reward. .Good benefits get better with security and love and peace of mind knowing that at our age we should be with the one we will be with till we pass and believing in that. In closing I will anger some but what I will say is the truth with no excuses needed.If you want too be a whore(male or female ) do so ,but recognize it for what it is...do not make excuses ..and then color it pretty by calling it friends with benefits. very excellent observations... and coming from a man is even more astonishing & admirable ... Bravo for you Country Mike... for having the Integrity to disagree & the Courage to tell it like it is !!!