OK here's the situation....
I dated this girl for about 2 years about 5 years ago and then we broke up mainly because I was being dumb and didn't realize what I had until after it was gone.
Ok, so since we broke up neither of us spoke to each other for that 5 year stretch during which she got married and separated. Then about a month and a half ago out of the blue she contacts me and wants to go out. I agreed because I still had feelings for her and we got along great. So good in fact that after just a few days we were pretty much back to being "together".
Then after about a week and a half of that she breaks up with me out of the blue. Didn't speak to me for almost a month and then once again out of the blue I get a text "I wanna go to the bar tonight. I wanna go with you." word for word. Then three hours later she texts me to cancel those plans. That was about 5 days ago. Haven't heard from her since.
So I am fricken confused and about to just delete and block her number and get rid of any and every trace of her from my life.
Any advice would be great.

Mmmm sure sounds like she needed someone 'reliable'
to get her through her current situation.

A stop-gap.
I wouldn't wait around to see how it plays out.

Because she married someone else and now separated. You did good to just go out with her again. I would move on. Let her get someone else to fill in on her dates out.

suggest a fwb relationship with her and nothing more than that.sounds like she doesn't want an actual relationship with you

Sounds like your just a fall back boy, ide tell her game over .

Hit that delete button and block her from your life..... She is using you and like a puppy dog, and you are always there with your tail wagging........

I'd say goodbye

Begin Advice: Don't date married people.

End Advice.

Add to this....Don't date separated people either.

A couple more details.....

The first time we dated I broke off the relationship because I didn't want to commit and she clearly did. I had a hard time at that point with admitting that I loved her and it was easier to end it if that makes any sense. I'm 100% positive that she was in love with me at the time, no doubt about it.

She's been separated for over 7 months now and he lives in another state. She broke it off with him, not the other way around. those are the reasons that I decided to go out with her again.

Honestly dude....she is in that state of mind where she really doesn't know what she wants. She wants you one minute, and then the next she will want someone else. Right now you are a "safe" option for her (simply because she knows you and having familiarity is positive for her right now). I doubt she will ever be in love with you again (it's possible) but if I were you I would keep her at a distance. I know that is easier said than done but it is what you need to do.

And don't date people that are not over their ex's yet!

I don't think that the seperated ones are worth bothering with either. Not if you actually want a relationship. I guess that you could be there for her until she gets herself sorted out and if you really have feelings for each other then it's maybe worth keeping in touch with her and just seeing how it goes.

I wouldn't let her treat you like a doormat though. If she's messing you about like you're saying then you should just have a chat with her and ask her what the problem is and what it is that she really wants from you.

Doesn't matter, she's still married and still has all the baggage that goes with it. Stop making excuses for her and for yourself. If you cant see that shes a hot mess and using you then you need new eye balls.

I am not making excuses, lol. I already said in my original post that I am on the verge of removing her from my life altogether. I was only giving further details.

I could see the first time, her needing time not to talk to you just so so could have time to think more

clear headed and not having her decision tilted prehaps, due to your physical presents.

Having said that, I would have said great when she called you up to meet you saying that she wants

to be with you, but those were only words, dont follow her words, follow her actions or lakh of.

You know this! your a smart guy, I know its hard to do but the pain of not been with someone you love

is a hundred time less than trying to figue out, who, what, when,where, why and how many.


Bin there done that and bought the t-shirt,

Very best,

Jamie

You are being used.

You have become a booty call. I suppose you could be flattered that she remembers you so fondly?

Yeah, that's so true. But moving on would probably be the best option. Maybe try talking to her like mr. -I wanna spank- (oops I mean TawtStrat) says and see how she responds?
If she doesn't want to talk it's probably done...

She's just looking for somebody to pay her bar tab.

Dump her.