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Topic: Would You Date A Woman That Is Dating A Lot Of Different Men
David's photo
Mon 10/09/23 08:23 AM
I've been seeing a girl that I met on Match. com, and things are going well. We've gone out on four dates, and we're both taking things at a comfortable pace. We haven't been intimate in any way and I'm okay with that. Our dates have all been at nice restaurants, and I always pay the bill.

I find her attractive and I know that many men are interested in dating her. On our last date, I shared with her how much I enjoyed the fancy restaurant and the walk afterward on our last date. However, she appeared confused and said, "Did you really take me to that restaurant?" I confirmed the date and time, but she still seemed unsure. She told me that many men had taken her to that restaurant before, but she didn't realize I had taken her there too.

I guess this is a problem dating a woman that is dating a lot of men. She doesn't remember any special time.

motowndowntown's photo
Mon 10/09/23 09:05 AM
Obviously you're not "dating" this woman. You're just providing her with a free meal.

Next time you "date" her, hand her a baloney sandwich, say "thanks for the memories", and walk away.

Mr Good Guy's photo
Mon 10/09/23 09:15 AM
Edited by Mr Good Guy on Mon 10/09/23 09:15 AM

I've been seeing a girl that I met on Match. com, and things are going well. We've gone out on four dates, and we're both taking things at a comfortable pace. We haven't been intimate in any way and I'm okay with that. Our dates have all been at nice restaurants, and I always pay the bill.

I find her attractive and I know that many men are interested in dating her. On our last date, I shared with her how much I enjoyed the fancy restaurant and the walk afterward on our last date. However, she appeared confused and said, "Did you really take me to that restaurant?" I confirmed the date and time, but she still seemed unsure. She told me that many men had taken her to that restaurant before, but she didn't realize I had taken her there too.

I guess this is a problem dating a woman that is dating a lot of men. She doesn't remember any special time.
Oh geez. No words

delightfulillusion's photo
Mon 10/09/23 09:15 AM
Hmmm. I’m confused. Is this the same woman you talked about in your other thread? If so, you stated that the relationship ended after 4 dates.

TxsGal3333's photo
Mon 10/09/23 10:26 AM
Edited by TxsGal3333 on Mon 10/09/23 10:43 AM
Humm so is this the same lady that order a meal to go but did not tell you..??

I got news for you buddy you are not dating her you are just taking her to nice places to eat and she has no interest in you.. If one does not remember the dates they went on with someone then you are just being played..

But carry on if you don't mind throwing money out the window..

Toodygirl5's photo
Mon 10/09/23 10:35 AM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Mon 10/09/23 10:41 AM
Maybe her times with you were not that special.
Many women and men date from Online. Some people
have many dates that's not that unusual.
Or she just may have a poor memory.

If you want exclusive dating, you should say that in the beginning. Then she may have declined going out with you.

Merry's photo
Mon 10/09/23 10:40 AM
Like Etsin said on the other thread, these stories are probably not true.
You never really bother to return to the threads you have started and with each new post these scenarios are beginning to sound rather tall. 🧐:expressionless:




Slim gym 's photo
Mon 10/09/23 11:43 AM
online dates normally bring out all the 'serial daters'... sorry , most are women who wanna be wined and dined ... I have had my fair share .... but not anymore !!!

no photo
Mon 10/09/23 03:12 PM
If this is true, which seems far-fetched, I wouldn't be calling her for another date....just saying.

Jaan Doh 's photo
Tue 10/10/23 12:37 AM
Hi David,

This sounds to me like your dating an escort?

Hence she can't remember who took her to which restaurant?

I think also, that sometimes you can look for love too hard... And it's better to frequent the places where you expect to meet a "genuinely" nice person, (like church - you shouldn't find any players there) or join a group on meetup like a walking, cooking, dancing group, whatever piques your interest...

It looks to me like your looking for love but with people who are NOT looking for love, maybe they're just running a business or looking a free meal or company but at a price...

God only knows...

bella 's photo
Tue 10/10/23 01:16 AM
Sound like escort but i'll still tell you this maybe you've not meet the right person yet

Donnie's photo
Tue 10/10/23 04:30 AM

Hi David,

This sounds to me like your dating an escort?

Hence she can't remember who took her to which restaurant?

I think also, that sometimes you can look for love too hard... And it's better to frequent the places where you expect to meet a "genuinely" nice person, (like church - you shouldn't find any players there) or join a group on meetup like a walking, cooking, dancing group, whatever piques your interest...

It looks to me like your looking for love but with people who are NOT looking for love, maybe they're just running a business or looking a free meal or company but at a price...

God only knows...


I'm with you on all of what you say except looking at church. It fine if you do find someone in church but that shouldn't be the primary reason for going. You should be there to genuinely worship and meet with and be strengthened by fellow believers. Holding each other accountable and such ideally.
Another thing to consider is I you do find someone and it doesn't work out, what then ? One or both leave the church ? Or have an uncomfortable situation ? Or if you don't find someone. Leave the church because of that ? Makes the place a singles bar without booze, rather than a strong body of believers.

no photo
Tue 10/10/23 05:06 AM
Edited by Unknow on Tue 10/10/23 05:07 AM


I'm with you on all of what you say except looking at church. It fine if you do find someone in church but that shouldn't be the primary reason for going. You should be there to genuinely worship and meet with and be strengthened by fellow believers. Holding each other accountable and such ideally.
Another thing to consider is I you do find someone and it doesn't work out, what then ? One or both leave the church ? Or have an uncomfortable situation ? Or if you don't find someone. Leave the church because of that ? Makes the place a singles bar without booze, rather than a strong body of believers.


I can understand what you're saying, but at the same time, what better place to find someone, than a place where you know you have the same beliefs? I don't think he was suggesting to church hop like you would bar hop. I think he was saying, you're more likely to find a long lasting, meaningful relationship, in someone you have the same ideals as. And as a Christian, your faith should be the most important thing to you. You know how the Bible says not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers? I think he meant like that. I dunno... I say pray about everything, and let God open and close doors in your life. He's always done it for me.

no photo
Tue 10/10/23 05:36 AM

Like Etsin said on the other thread, these stories are probably not true.
You never really bother to return to the threads you have started and with each new post these scenarios are beginning to sound rather tall. 🧐:expressionless:




Redundant. Attention seeking. Blah Blah Blah.

indifferent indifferent indifferent

Duttoneer's photo
Tue 10/10/23 11:07 AM
Edited by Duttoneer on Tue 10/10/23 11:08 AM
Would You Date A Woman That Is Dating A Lot Of Different Men


No, not knowingly. You can never tell how dating someone will work out, but I am only interested in a monogamous relationship.


Donnie's photo
Tue 10/10/23 12:44 PM



I'm with you on all of what you say except looking at church. It fine if you do find someone in church but that shouldn't be the primary reason for going. You should be there to genuinely worship and meet with and be strengthened by fellow believers. Holding each other accountable and such ideally.
Another thing to consider is I you do find someone and it doesn't work out, what then ? One or both leave the church ? Or have an uncomfortable situation ? Or if you don't find someone. Leave the church because of that ? Makes the place a singles bar without booze, rather than a strong body of believers.


I can understand what you're saying, but at the same time, what better place to find someone, than a place where you know you have the same beliefs? I don't think he was suggesting to church hop like you would bar hop. I think he was saying, you're more likely to find a long lasting, meaningful relationship, in someone you have the same ideals as. And as a Christian, your faith should be the most important thing to you. You know how the Bible says not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers? I think he meant like that. I dunno... I say pray about everything, and let God open and close doors in your life. He's always done it for me.


Yes, you're correct on it being a good place to find a like minded believer. Just make sure you're a believer yourself. And you and I are on the same page in thinking Christian believer. Worship in spirit and truth. I just know I've seen bad things going on in church because someone there had main objective of looking for a opposite sex relationship and not so much a Father Son and Holy Spirit relationship.

Jaan Doh 's photo
Thu 10/12/23 02:52 PM



I'm with you on all of what you say except looking at church. It fine if you do find someone in church but that shouldn't be the primary reason for going. You should be there to genuinely worship and meet with and be strengthened by fellow believers. Holding each other accountable and such ideally.
Another thing to consider is I you do find someone and it doesn't work out, what then ? One or both leave the church ? Or have an uncomfortable situation ? Or if you don't find someone. Leave the church because of that ? Makes the place a singles bar without booze, rather than a strong body of believers.


I can understand what you're saying, but at the same time, what better place to find someone, than a place where you know you have the same beliefs? I don't think he was suggesting to church hop like you would bar hop. I think he was saying, you're more likely to find a long lasting, meaningful relationship, in someone you have the same ideals as. And as a Christian, your faith should be the most important thing to you. You know how the Bible says not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers? I think he meant like that. I dunno... I say pray about everything, and let God open and close doors in your life. He's always done it for me.



@NotLooking
Your quite right, thank you, yes a person could meet someone while out grocery shopping even...

@Donnie
Your quote right too, it should NOT be the PRIMARY reason to go to church, anywhere else okay, but church? The house of God?... You're quite right :thumbsup:





Rock's photo
Thu 10/12/23 07:01 PM

I've been seeing a girl that I met on Match. com, and things are going well. We've gone out on four dates, and we're both taking things at a comfortable pace. We haven't been intimate in any way and I'm okay with that. Our dates have all been at nice restaurants, and I always pay the bill.

I find her attractive and I know that many men are interested in dating her. On our last date, I shared with her how much I enjoyed the fancy restaurant and the walk afterward on our last date. However, she appeared confused and said, "Did you really take me to that restaurant?" I confirmed the date and time, but she still seemed unsure. She told me that many men had taken her to that restaurant before, but she didn't realize I had taken her there too.

I guess this is a problem dating a woman that is dating a lot of men. She doesn't remember any special time.


You're so full of schit, your breath stinks.

bobtail76's photo
Fri 10/13/23 06:48 PM

Hmmm. I’m confused. Is this the same woman you talked about in your other thread? If so, you stated that the relationship ended after 4 dates.


I was thinking the same thing! How expensive could this place be - when he's too cheap to buy a drink

Martha 's photo
Sat 10/14/23 06:01 AM

I've been seeing a girl that I met on Match. com, and things are going well. We've gone out on four dates, and we're both taking things at a comfortable pace. We haven't been intimate in any way and I'm okay with that. Our dates have all been at nice restaurants, and I always pay the bill.

I find her attractive and I know that many men are interested in dating her. On our last date, I shared with her how much I enjoyed the fancy restaurant and the walk afterward on our last date. However, she appeared confused and said, "Did you really take me to that restaurant?" I confirmed the date and time, but she still seemed unsure. She told me that many men had taken her to that restaurant before, but she didn't realize I had taken her there too.

I guess this is a problem dating a woman that is dating a lot of men. She doesn't remember any special time.

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