Well hopefully I would have enough forethought to take a camera because I would want proof for that lawyer.

I would tap whom ever on the shoulder and say "We are done. You deserve each other."

Then I would go home, change the locks. Then because I would not want there skanky butts in my home again I would pack personal crap up and move it to a storage locker. Then I would tell them that was the last thing I would ever do for either of them again.

Since I have always told my mate that I consider the door open to leave anytime they choose no foul no return but cheating is grounds for divorce, or even possibly homicide, they better decide what they really want and never come back if they "mess up".

It is just a big old playpen.

I think a lot of people just want and on-line relationship because it is just cheaper/easier than a in person relationship.

Think abut it on line you are able to be home, comfortable, watching TV, eating or anything else you can multitask doing. You get to talk about your day. You can edit what you say.

Real life it is much more stressful. Strung between two places suck. Driving home when you are tired. Having to really pay attention. It is expensive. Then the whole sex thing usually is mediocre or worse.

The younger people can avoid pregnancy and the older people get to pretend they are young in the fantasy. .

I am always amamzed the people who are satisfied with so little. An occassional visit just wouldn't do it for me. But obviously for a lot of people it is enough. If it wasn't they would do something different.

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I know how you hate to type so much I dont bash her or when talking to him about her.It was just a question and got great responses so thank you all


Please don't think I think you are bashing her all the time to the little one because I don't.

But having been down this road; first the child and later the parent and many times the counselor. I am a realist about the tremendous pain everyone goes through. How words and feelings can slip out.

I remember many times having to walk down to the lake and just sob rather than tell people the pain I felt as a kid and then watching my own go through it. It's not fair. Sucks so much.

Only grace is hoping that by telling people what I believe to be the truth they may be spared some of the pain.

I only wish some of you younger ones will go to the kids and tell them your truths. So much of the other influences really give a onesided story.

Don't worry about me typing. Keeps me off the streets. ROFLMFBO!

I can't imagine anyone not being able to read my feelings on my face especially my eyes. If I was drawn to a friend where it would not be in their or my best interest I would distance myself from that person quickly and for a long time.

I think you offer little information. and asking for an intimate encounter will not make you popular.

Probably they consider you to be pushing too hard. If someone tells you they will call you, then don't, it is a lazy way of saying they are not interested. Is it rude to lie? Yes but if you press for how you did or will you see them again it is easier than saying no and having to deal with the fallout in person.

Sorry not a fun situation. If he owns the property you maybe stuck.

If it is on rented property you have quite a few protections through your state mobile home laws. The state will give you a booklet on them. It is likely that he will soon be evicted or arrested soon. Reporting your experience in writing to the property manager is important. Keep copies.

I don't advocate you elbowing this guy. What is being suggested is assault possibly feloney assault if you catch him in the face and do any permenant damage without being able to prove he touched you first. You certainly don't want to be funding his obnoxious behavior because he can sue you civilially.

It is unfortuneate that your first meeting was in his property. I would make it clear, if you have any further contact, that there will be no more contact generated by you and you want none from him. I really don't blame you for being angry that your prior neighbor put you in such an offensive situation. He will get his in future Karma.

Good luck.

I think someone trying matchmaking off site would be a real RED FLAG for me.

I would think it is a violation of use agreements also.

Have I ever pointed out a profile to someone? Only because I thought they had a good profile with good photos to use as a model with the person's permission.

Years ago when I used to entertain a lot only very rarely have I seen mutual personal relationships develope and thrive when influenced by a third party. I would not dream of thinking I could know someone well enough via the computer to recommend them matching.

I personally believe adults should find their own dates .

Might want to take a long hard look at what the people who have failed you have in common. Bet it is clearer than it appears. to others than it may be to yourself. If all else failes make an inventory and see if those elements are somthing you could handel differently.

I still see a certain absence of ownership for the failure. Either you have a poor selection process, are not terribly observant or maybe selectively deaf when your partners are communicateing with you. It is not all words actions account for a lot. If the women in your life are repeatedly withering in your shadow then maybe you need to lighten up. If you are feeling exploited then stop being a doormat. Maybe you are promiseing more than you actually give and when you don't live up they move on

Has a Can do attitude.

Good conversationalist.

Good Manners.

Neat appearance.

Respectable reputation.

Stable work history.

Responsible for children and parents.

Safe driver.

Monogamus and Discreetly affectionate.

Non smoker.

Minimal interest in or use of alcohol.

Finacially conservative.

Varity of interests.

Calm observant easygoing personality.

Kind and generous sense of humor.

Trustworthy.

Predictable; especially in a crisis.

Committed to doing the right thing.

Faith in and love for me.

The ability to recieve my love.

there is a cheap and easy way to stop most guys like this.

Send him a registerd signature letter Typed on plain paper telling him .......
addressing him by his full name.
address
City,State, and zip

" Leave me alone."

Put your legal name,
address.
City,State 7zip
Date it.
Counter sign it in ink.
It can't hurt to add
"Copy sent to: Health and Welfare Officer
address local police department
Your city, State & zip

When you get your confirmation from the post office call 911 immediately if he steps foot on your property excludeing of course any easement. Do not answer your door. When the officer arrives stay inside, he will come to the door and knock then you can let him in or step out on the porch depending what he directs you to do. Answer his questions as briefly as possible. Telling the officer calmly that you have verbally and in wrting told the man to leave you alone; show him the letter. He may or may not talk to the man. Usually there will be two officers on a domestic call. They probably won't tell you what they tell him if they do have a chat with him. My guess is he will split before the officer gets there. If you can do it safely photograph him on your cell phone.

ASAP go down and get your copy of the police report. Even if he is not charged they have to file a report on the call. The officer will probably give you a report number. It should be free but there may be a small fee. It will be very easy to get a restraining order and have him arrested if he bothers you again.

Sorry you have to deal with such a jerk. Do your best to avoid him.
I would discourage you from making a scene or discussing it with neighbors as that only fuel the fire for this attention whore and will make the police department less eager to address the situation as seriously.


PS.
Glad you spoke to your property manager if you think this is adequate I would withold sending the letter until he bothers you again. Write your property manager a thank you note if you think it will be appreciated otherwise lay low and don't be a headache to them.

Sounds like you all made a big effort to make this fun and as affordable as possible. I can't swing it but I will thank you anyway for making the effort. Have a great time.

If you really love your neice chill and give her someone to talk to and listen to in confidence when she is in the mood.

If you get the opportunity talk honestly about your fears, and understanding how men think, and may try to manipulate her. Remind her she will be letting down a lot of people who trust her to protect herself from disease and pregnancy and offer her support in getting accurate information and protection. You will be much more credible than her parents so it is a awesome opportunity to be a positive influence and really protect her rather than bluster.

Telling her frequently hat you love her, respect her, and want her to be responsible young woman is a very powerful incentive to respect herself and her future.

You don't want her to run away and go into hiding with a lover because she is afraid of how the family is going to react if she has a problem. Fear of family reaction is one of the leading cause of teens hiding dateing abuse or pressures they don't know how to handle on there own.

If my experience (and I have eight sisters besides cousins and girlfriends ) and years of counseling experience it is not necessarily the boyfriend you know about that you have to worry about. Frequently it is peer pressure from female friends that get younger girls in bad situations. Telling her she can have her Uncle bail her out of any situation without the third degree is a blessing.

Wow I don't understand the ones that fall apart after years and years. Very sad but seems like it is happening more and more. Sorry jw

Seems like too many things that mean nothing.

Empty nest is tough and going from work/home/work/home doesn't keep life from feeling empty. Eventually you will hit the wall if you don't find something you enjoy and rest. Scarey waking up in CardioICU.