Come closer and I will whisper it in your ear.

Welcome. Kind of interesting humor. Hats are curious.

P.S. There are guys who would line up to get that much attention from a cute smart blonde.

I agree the smileing photo is better. Develope out your interests a little in your text. Keep adding pictures and popping into forums to get a lot of exposure. Welcome.

I do not have the financial freedom to travel to just meet someone new that far outside of my community. Nor would I spend a great deal of time if expenses were not an issue.

I followed back to see how you are. If for some reason you get a menses I would still say go see your OBGYN. Skipped periods and nipple pain that early suggests a check up. It can be something simple but if it is not as a mother of two young children you want to give yourself a fighting chance at survival if it is serious. Good Luck.

I learned my parakeet died today. Bummer.

I don't think it matters as much when I said it but when I first heard it. Or when I really believed it.

Someone told me that originally this was an artists colony site which makes sense given the skills of some of the long timers. Don't know if it is true but seems reasonable.

While it doesn't seem fair to kick a guy when he is down with the whole " what the hell were you thinking" but come on guy you need to have to read your accounting of this last romantic fiasco every day for a month and kick your own arse accordingly.

I am sure if you have survived as long as you have in the military that you have learned something about honor. It is never wise to give another human being control over your life when you do not see them practiceing honorable behavior towards others or you. You always have the choice to practice honor and demand it of others.

I am not sure what got you off track with this woman. I doubt you are really a drama junkie but if being in the military especially Iraq would not contribute to that I don't know what would. Probably a few things before that. I think I would find a good professional to work it out in private rather than and open forum on the computer.

You do need to move forward from this experience. Being angry is one of the first stages of greiving the others won't be nearly so easy.

I know it might sound crazy to tell a young viral man to lay off sex but you are confuseing sex with love and don't need a repeat performance.

Last I would say jump in and enjoy the Mingle experience. You will find you won't always like what you hear but over all I have seen are most are decent people who will give you a sustained sense of friendship which can not be a negative. Welcome to the family.

This is not a question that will go away until his Mother answers it if it is ever answered. As he gets older you can tell him that he will have a better idea when he is older.

Now you need to set your anger aside and put on your parents pants.

You may believe she does not care from the depths of your soul but you will only hurt your child to say what he should never be made to believe.

A child finds his identity from both parents and to make one less is only damageing their self image. You can say something positive about his Mother if only to say she is wonderful for giving the world the gift of him.

It is not your job to explain the mother's absence unless your child asks specificlly.

If he does it is probably best to be honest and say the truth. Since you can not read her mind my personal favorite is "When she thinks she needs to be here and she can come she will." because it gives a child hope and a sense that she is accepting the situation. If she has told you an explanation repeat it without editorializeing your anger. It is not your kid's job to make you feel better. It is not your child's job to be good or bad enough to bring the absent parent back into their life.

If you do not know it is quite ok to say that and shut up. A reassureing hug and a transition to another activity when they seem ready, which often will be much faster than it seems, is the best answer.

If the child insists with the insistent "why" that most kids do then ask him what he thinks? Sometimes it is an attempt to get information; other's attention, sometimes reassurance. Children can have fun happy imaginations. That is ok with in reason. Later it is wiser to tell them something reasonable like they are working or doing the normal things people do. Suggesting that she is doing some of the same things is comforting.

Suggesting that someone they love is well and comfortable and doing what they need to be doing is always more acceptable than saying something you may think is more true. Suggesting that they miss, or should miss, their child as much as the child misses them is NOT comforting for the child. No child wants to feel their parent is suffering. When they are suffering they need the parent that is there to make them feel they are not alone.

Hey we all end up looking like a q-tip eventually so I guess enjoy what you have while you have it.

That sounds familiar. Thank God one time a guy I was dateing adult son told me the truth. I would NEVER get serious about anyone until I had met some friends and family.

P.S. Telling a woman you want to think of you as sexy that your Mother, or Daughter, or your Ex bought a cologne is a real mood killer.

Wearing and Avon fragrance usually suggests Grandma, and Ex, or your Avon lady picked it for you. So does a WalMart fragrance. Having something a little more upscale is not being a snob it is aspireing to be successful. Don't be pretensious by buying something you can not afford but only wear what you like because if a woman likes you eventually she will probably buy it for you.

Whatever you put it on your body own it. If a lady is asking you she might be fishing for info but it is kind of a left hand compliment to say you don't know just something you had.

Whatever scent you pick think about the "memories" it will envoke. Do you really want to smell like Grand Dad or and exhusband? Maybe just smelling clean and like yourself is usually best.

If you think you must EASY does it. If I am in your arms I sure don't want my eyes to water and nose to run. A guy that puts a lot on his throat area is contridicting his goals. Do not put it under your arms or groin area where it will sour quickly with sweat.

Keep in mind what fragrances you mix. Dryer sheets, deodorant, mouthwash, soap, and foot spray all clash with cologne.

Be aware how your favorite coat may have smells all it own. If your store your good clothes in the same closet as your stinky boots or your work on the car clothes it will have an oder that you are "used" to and may not even notice but a lady will.

Think about how heavy a cologne may smell in and enclosed car. Also how your car smells or the detailing chemicals may. It will be your first and last impression often.

Depends what it is and how I am expected to act.

Both are usually evening meals. On holidays or sabbath days it can sometimes be that dinner is served at noon or early afternoon. Ask your host or tell your invitee.

Supper is generally casual at home. A lighter meal it can be eaten at the table, buffet style, or in the family room or patio. Pets are usually excluded. Occassionally it is out and usually "fast" food either eaten there, in route, or at home, or with some other activity. Follow your hosts lead. As a guest it is still required to express appreciation verbally to your date, and or your host, or maybe casually by phone or email later. Good table manners and social graces are still necessary even in a casual setting. At a supper you might be invited to join in in preparation or clean up. To offer either is polite. An acceptance of a supper invitation does not generally require a RSVP but it definitely requires notification if you are to be late or are not going to attend. A late to a cancelation to a supper in home should be recognized with a small token of appreciation and a sincere apology to the host.

Dinner is more formal usually with the majority of the family and guests at the table. It can be intimate and often excludes children and pets. It is wise to inquire with your host.

A dinner date out is usually at a slightly better resturant to a sophisticated location. A dinner invitation generally suggests something more than casual clothes and if in a host's home a small gift of flowers or beverage and definitely a written thank you note after; not a text or email. If the invitation is written a RSVP is required. A late cancellation requires a written apology and generally flowers to the host.

Any invitation to supper or dinner it is important to arrive on time or only slightly early. It is important to not assume that it is an invitation to more than eat and not overstay. At the end of the meal and a reasonable amount of conversation time you should politely excuse yourself.

A supper or dinner may include the serving of alcohol. If you have a preference on the subject it should be discussed before accepting the invitation. If you are a minor it is just good manners to refuse politely.

As long as "not in my neighborhood" exists for for group homes and shelters this kind of child abuse will continue. I can't tell you how frusterateing it is to have a child or fleeing parent child combination on your case load and have nowhere safe to move them to or no realistic resources to help but a small percentage of the people who surge against "us" with overwhelming need.

The system waits until a child is so profoundly disabled before we can find a bed or jail cell to "help" children it is obscene and basiclly too late and we know it.

I am not against animals but we care more about rescueing animals in this country than we do children. Think about it almost every county has and animal shelter where it is easy to volunteer, donate, and bring an animal in crisis. But builders can make millions building shopping centers and mansions but are not required to provide houseing for OUR Chidren. Our courthouses have marble toilet stalls while children sleep in the streets.

It is entirely too easy for a child to fall into the system and basiclly become a Child Doe with NO ONE having their specific butt on the line for how they are cared for. I guarantee you if state guardians or sub-contracted guardians had criminal sactions when they fail at their job the system would be cleaned up. If every state had liability for it's children they would have to do better.

It doesn't fit the stated goal of getting kids off the state nickel but any child of the system will tell you they would much rather grown up in and orphanage with competent staff and decent facility so they could stayed put long enough to had and identity, succeeded in a school system, have extended relationships, and continuity in life than constantly being bounced around in trash bags where nothing really belongs to you and you can build no ties or property and have any contact with extended family or even siblings. We wonder why children run away from the system or turn to gangs but that is the only system that want them or offer them anything that looks like they are not invisable until they are kicked to the curb or fast tracked into the military. The state does not even follow it's own "rules" about truancy, medical care, tobacco and alcohol consuption, or even diet or acting as a legal guardian. The number of state wards that are over weight, addicted, and under educated is obscene. The number that are victims of crime once they ARE a state ward is a national disgrace.

I do find this poem being posted as a mental nudge for us all to act. But the reality is it is in itself exploitive and basiclly only attention seeking and tells the children that are in this situation that they really are worthless subjects to be pitied rather than human beings that deserve more dignity than having their misery recounted. How many people that read it will actually write a check, write a congressman, or donate time to any childrens issue but one that directly serves their child or grandchild?

Hope you both find all the Happiness in the World.

Remember that jumping off a cliff feeling well giving up a job to follow a personal life. Didn't ever jump the pond but certainly went coast to coast.

And old military gypsy tip; When you getgive addresses of young friends get a back up address for their folks or a stable sibling. With romance, breakups, and economic roller coasters it is easy to loose track of friends. More than once I have been so glad to get a forwarded letter from and old friend/co-worker.

After working as a Bartender I think I should write a book. "How men try"

I thought about trying the no meat thing considering how much it takes to get a steer to the table but it came down to do I want to have quality or quantity of life and I put a steak on the grill.

Seems like you have a good lead shot but more photos to show your interests would help.

Watch that being sober thing. Get your life really messed up if you are not careful.